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Monday, December 29, 2014

Honest T + cliche' NYE

So this is officially my last blog post of the year. My how time flies! This past week, besides my last day of work, it was Christmas! Christmas didn't feel like Christmas... As usual. I think it stops feeling like that when your parents stop giving you wrapped presents under a tree claiming it's not from them. Maybe it starts feeling like it again when you have kids of your own! Anywho, the next major holiday, New Year's Eve, is always pretty traumatic if you ask me.  We scramble around trying to find the perfect thing to be doing at the exact moment it switches over. So overhyped! Just like birthdays.  So much freakin climax until... It happens... And then it's over. Meh.

I know that everyone always wants to make a bunch of resolutions and whatnot. And I'm no exception! I just wanna say, whatever resolution you make, make sure it's realistic (to your own standards). I HATE the quit smoking or quit drinking ones (even though I LOATHE smoke), only because no one is ever really serious about that. AT all. And if you are, why pick New Years as an excuse?

Idk, I just think pick something that could be a year-wise goal. But do what you want! I know you will anyway.

Another thing I wanted to talk about in my last post of the year, honesty.  Not sure why this was on my mind this past week, but I feel as though so many of the problems in this world can be avoided if people were just a little bit more honest. I mean, ofcourse there is a lie here and there every once in a while, but overall, why aren't we more honest with one another about our feelings, intentions, desires, thoughts? The truth is definitely scary, I agree. It's hard to tell people the truth.  Especially the ones you love, and ESPECIALLY if it's something you think might make them change the way they feel about you, but comeoooon. It feels so relieving to just be honest.  You won't have to sneak around or hide. You can speak freely. It's pretty awesome.  Think of the best friend that you currently have....

Now think of how much they know about you.  Do you keep many secrets from them? Probably not! And how good does that feel? Amazing right! Such a stress reliever!  I don't understand how people can be in relationships where they lie to each other or keep things. Isn't that just exhausting?? Ugh. The truth is great. I think we should all practice using it much more often.

But don't be too abrasive with it! A lot of people confuse honesty with rudeness.  There is a way to say things to people as to not offend them, ya know?

Oh well guys and dolls, I'm just trying to spread a little advice across the land.  Let me know what you are gonna be doing on New Years! I have no plans as of yet : /

But something free!

P.s. I already have a new sorta kinda job haha.  Maybe I will tell about it in the next blog....

P.p.s. So apparently on Christmas Day there was a huge flight sale... My friend told me about it, and I immediately went online.  Round trip flights to Abu Dhabi from NYC were as low as $187!! I thought about it wayyyy too much, and by the time I checked back, prices went back up to about a thousand. -______-

I'm still mad!

Monday, December 22, 2014


Hello world hehe I don’t know this is weird. Did you catch that? Did you catch that I don’t know this is weird. Did you type in hello world? What are you typing? ughhhhhhh. Stop! Okay, go back. 

Well as you can tell by now, it is not actually me typing. For the first time in my blog history I have a transcriber! This is weird man, STOP. anyway, They’re typing literally every- all of my inflections. Right now I’m getting dressed (that’s why I have a transcriber) for a business venture of sorts, you could say (more to come on that next week). Not quite sure how it’s gonna turn out, but i’m going to go check it out because…why not?  

Because you know after Christmas Eve, I will no longer have a job. MERRY CHRISTMAS! Happy Chanukah!  Happy Kwanzaa!

Alright um, what was I about to say? I was gonna talk about something I was thinking about it in the shower but I forgot. Oh yeah. um. It’s hard to word this. 

The quote for the day is “if you can’t beat em, join em. Then defeat them” and it’s true. Because it’s exactly what I’m doing at this very moment as far as a job is concerned. Over this past week I have been watching a lot of documentary films and I’m trying to find a way that I could protest and fight the power, stick it to the man, without getting murdered by the government. So I’ve decided to come up with a plan: IYCBEJETDT, gotta work a bit on the acronym title to make it a bit more internet friendly but that’s it for now. 

OK, I’ve decided to type for myself now:

The more I think about it, the more I feel like I was put here to help people think differently about certain situations going on in this crazy mixed up world.  i know it may seem very far fetched to do so being little ole me, just one measly person.  But who knows, maybe that’s why more people don’t speak out.  Fear holds us all back! I admit, It holds me back a little too.  Fear of everything from failure, to not being understood, to being punished!  But that is why we have to fight in such a way that’s….well…. kind of sneaky!

Do you all remember when I talked about the selfie epidemic a few blogs ago?  How I stopped taking selfies on instagram and what not to “prove something”? Well, I’ve recently decided to maybe restructure my thinking to get more people involved. Maybe I SHOULD actually post some selfies.  Some really nice ones.  Maybe even with my professional camera.  That would definitely gain more attention (even though that’s not the ideal way I would like to gain it).  But then with the growing popularity that selfie likers give, I could THEN implement my statements about how I feel about them on a more board spectrum.  Sneaky right!

I suppose this way isn’t all that bad if you just stay focused on your goal.  Even relating to my work situation….  I hated the company for a while before I actually quit, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t stay there to gain more evidence in the fight I would need against them, so i stuck around!  Sometimes, you can’t take down something without first joining forces with it.  That may sound a bit grim, but it’s true.  I would never use it in the purely vindictive sense of course, but in the case of social problems and big business, I feel as though this is a great way.  Think about it!

Anywho, this post will be short because I actually forgot it was Monday and I have to run!  What a very hectic holiday week!  Peace everyone!  And I have one more blog before the New year, so if you have suggestions, let me know!

P.s.  I have no NYE plans, ahhhh!

p.p.s. I want a Christmas tree :(

Monday, December 15, 2014


Hello everyone!

Happy Monday! Dang, today really snuck up on me. It's been a crazy week to say the least. In addition to still not knowing what I'm going to be doing about my living situation, I have more news that is pretty life changing.

I quit my job!

Yea, let that marinate. The job I've been working at for almost half my time living in NYC will be no more by Christmas Eve. Now... I know my decisions can be super rash sometimes. I agree! It was sort of a sudden impulse, but I believe I had good reasons for doing what I did. Let me tell y'all!
(Not sure what kind of confidentiality agreements I may or may not have signed with this company, so I'll speak a bit vaguely. Once I find out that I didn't sign one, I'm making a damn expose'!)

It all began around last year May... I had been working with the company for about a year. I would like to say I was one of the better employees who knew what I was doing and didn't screw up. Not sure if some of you remember, but last year around May is when I suddenly had to leave my Washington heights apartment because the rent went up and everyone in the apartment couldn't afford it, so we had to ALL move that month.  I asked my manager about a $2 dollar raise. They said I would have to have an evaluation and they would let me know. Blah. ( I think they actually train managers to dodge raise talk from employees) They were taking VERY long to get around to discussing my raise, and I eventually had to leave the city because I couldn't find any place to move that fast.  I actually transferred WITHIN the company to the hamptons location ONLY because they provided housing. When I saved up and moved back to the city, I came back to the city location. I had saved up enough to pay rent for a few months so I was living fine.  Around last December is I think when I asked for a raise again.  They made up some excuse about how I was technically a new employee again so I had to wait at least 3 months to get reevaluated -___-

In the meantime, I started working for both of their city locations because they asked me to come help out at the other one. I was personally asked to come to the other location mind you.  I was even asked how much I wanted to make.  I told them an amount that would be a 4 dollar raise than what I was getting (hey, why not).  After I signed the wage form, I was told that I can't make 2 different amounts at 2 different places because it was still the same company. Ahhhh. I asked if I were to get a raise at the other location, would I get one here too. I was told yes, so I continued working for both. Three months later I eventually got my measly 2 dollar raise I had been trying to get for the last YEAR! Everything was fine.

As you all my also know, around August is when I stopped working at the first location I was hired.  I had just been working for the second location at this point.
Going about my life for the past few months, I had been getting direct deposit, so I wasn't seeing my actual checks.....

So here comes the kicker.  As you know, when you look for a new apartment, you have to show pay-stubs.  I asked my HR lady if I could have access to see them online.  To my utter and sheer terror, I found out that after I left the first location, they LOWERED my pay BACK down to what it originally was when I FIRST started working for them... 3 damn years ago!

You can believe I was a wee upset. I immediately went to go speak with the general manager (Who mind you has also been the general manager at the first location and beach location, so he should know my struggle).  When I spoke with him the day I found out, he seemed.... Irritated with me.  He actually sounded rather cold in the way he explained I should have been keeping track of everything. He also seemed annoyed that I wanted to know what to do about clocking in the next day.  He even said if I didn't want to come in tomorrow because of this than don't, but he wouldn't know any answers for probably a week.

Oh yea? This is how you treat a long time employee??? Who has been lied to about their money???? Like, there was no remorse! Rather, I was met with this response?? I just can't with this company! The employees are treated like straight crap. It's like if you aren't a manager, you are a bottom feeder!  I wanted to quit right then and there... In his face! I took a breath and called some friends who talked me down off of that ledge.  I decided to speak with HR again in person the next day.  Basically they told me since it was 2 different places, when I left the other one, they lowered it down. (But remember how they couldn't give me the 4 dollar raise because it was the SAME company? Ok)

HR lady was sympathetic at least. She understood that I was lied to... Bamboozled... Deceived!  She said that she would be able to do retro pay for the months my pay was lowered without my knowledge, but moving forward, the company couldn't afford to pay me what I was making at the first location... 2... Damn... Dollars! I've seen paperwork on this place, they comp enough food and drinks to pay me for a month in one night! Of all the areas to "save money" you do it on the employees? This place doesn't even give staff meals everyday! We don't get shift drinks either.  I came to the place where I worked to eat in the restaurant ONE time with another person who also worked for them. You wanna know what they comped for me? Their faithful employee? ONE glass of our wine. Not even both though?? I tell you, I have just really been fed up with the corporate politics of this damn place.  You would think they had STANDARDS to uphold, but nope. 

I just feel so completely disrespected and lied to. I'd rather be homeless and eat out of the garbage than continue working for people like that. I told them my last day would be Christmas Eve. It's really a shame, because the friends I've made working here will be LIFE long friends of mine. But some of them just don't know their worth, and keep working without fighting for change because they are scared of losing their job.

I say to everyone... NEVER sacrifice your self respect. Know your worth! I know the job market is tough, and so do these companies, but someone has to take a stand or nothing will ever get better.  Since working there, my rent has nearly tripled, but they expect me to work for the same pay? Inflation mutha f*ckas! People can't live like that! Demand the respect you deserve people. You don't have to be as extreme as me, but for real, it's not right to put up with this.  It's just like being in a bad relationship kinda.  If you know you aren't being treated right, why put up with it?  Yes there will be arguments, but damn! If you aren't being treated with the respect that you know you deserve, get out now. You are worth more than that. So much more.

Not sure what will happen with me moving forward, but I'm excited. Change is good sometimes.  I took the same leap of faith moving to NYC, so I know it will all work out.  Stay tuned for the revolution people.

Also, if any current or past employees are reading, please comment! Anonymously if you like :)

P.s. Did you know that Hugh Hefner quit his job because they wouldn't give him a 5 dollar raise? He went on to publish his first copy of Playboy.

P.p.s tonight is the annual Christmas staff party for the company. I plan on getting very drunk.

Monday, December 08, 2014

Hello world! It's me again, Bretony.  It's also Monday again.  So glad I'm sticking with this Monday blog!  It really gives me a sense of some sort of discipline in my random chaotic ADHD life.

Well, I suppose I'm just gonna jump right into the topic for today... the civil unrest in the "United" States... due to...well many, many things.  I actually debated on discussing anything about this topic at all.  Frankly (if I can be Frank for a minute), I'm not quite sure which aspect to even begin addressing.  There have been so many protests about the lack of convictions in black/white police/civilian fatal altercations. The whole country is at a very uncomfortable unrest.  It's turning everyone against everyone.  What is there to even say anymore?  I came across an article about how black people are lashing out at white entertainers (who supposedly are down with the black community in other ways) who haven't "spoken out" on the subject matter.  I've come across articles about riots and uproar.  I've come across endless status updates about how the police need to be stopped from doing whatever the heck they want with out consequence.  Everyone seems to have an opinion.  Everybody wants change.  Everybody is protesting and petitioning for change.  We all want the world to be a better, safer place.

But all of this begins with us.

Michael Jackson said it best!  I'm starting with the man in the mirror.  The world will never change unless WE change ourselves.  It seems as though everyone is so concerned with changing others, we forget that we should probably change ourselves too.  There are so many problems in this world that it's kind of like a junky room.  You know it's a mess.  You know you have to clean it, but where do you even begin?

The important thing that I want everyone to remember when discussing your opinions on the state of the world today is that love will help us more than hate.  It's hard for me too, to not be angry and want to start an uproar with the people who have done me wrong, but we have to maintain the love inside of us!  Everybody is just so.... angry.  I even feel like I might get backlash for my views of peace.  "Why aren't you more upset? Your people are getting murdered!  Fight for your rights!  Wake up and get your head out of the love clouds!"

I just don't know man.  But I do know that I'd rather spend my short sweet lifetime free from anger, stress and hate.  Bad things will always happen.  So will good things.  We can work on changing the bad things we don't like one step at a time.  When I have a dirty room and I don't know where to begin, I start with making some food.  I have to be happy first!  If I'm not in a place of peace before I start to clean, I'll just be angry and frustrated the entire time, ya know?

This week I actually had a random thought to become a politician.  I know, I know, terrible idea right?  But it seems like I could be in a position to help implement the changes from a higher level of power.  I know that the government is mostly corrupt anyway, so I suppose I will stick with my blog and videos to get my point across.  At the end of the day, we all still have our voices if we have nothing else.  And I know that is the main purpose for all the talk and coverage of these cases... to make everyone aware of the things that are going on in our nation.  We are aware now.  Now what do we do?

Anywhoooo, I feel as though there are many areas of this subject that I did not touch on.  There is so much to say and so little time!  But I will not speak too much about it after this.  You won't see me posting any videos of police brutality.  I won't be posting statuses about how this world sucks and that I've lost faith in humanity.  This does not mean I don't care about the things going on in the world around me.  It means that I would rather promote love and self awareness than all of the terribleness in the world.  I don't even like to watch the news! All depressing!  This also does not mean I won't be doing anything to help improve the world.  But...I have to take baby steps.  I have to start with myself before I try to fix the whole world.

Stay positive everyone.

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p.p.s.  I will also soon begin incorporating videos every week.  I will start with simple videos that go along with the blogs.  Just so I can make SURE I keep up with them.  I will let you know when I will start doing those.  Stay tuned!

Monday, December 01, 2014

Charity and YOU

Hello earth citizens!  It's me Bretony, of course.  It's always me (unless otherwise noted).  Anywho, life this past week has been pretty freakin stressful! To say the least!  Where do I begin....

Ok, so me and my very good friend have been semi sorta looking to move to a 2 bedroom apartment, which would be a little closer to the city for me, and also for her since she lives very far. So we've been casually looking, and last week we actually went looking at the same batch of apartments.  We found one that was amazinggggg!  It's huge! On the top floor of a 3 story townhouse type of thing, very high ceilings, 2 bedrooms, with one extra space (my friend said we should make that the living room, I think maybe a 3rd bedroom if someone needs somewhere to stay), and also another little extra room which can be used as a music room/ work out room/ make up room, whatever.  I actually made a list, prior to looking for places, of a bunch of qualifications I would like in my ideal apartment...and this place had everything but 2 things! (one of which was a swimming pool, so that obviously wasn't a deal breaker)  This is our dream apartment!

The only thing, it is out of our budget that we had set for ourselves.  I'm not in the situation like I was last year where I had saved up from my summer job.  All I really have is my current rent, my backup emergency rent fund (which is cash under my mattress), and the double security I put down when I first moved in.  This is technically enough to move, but the security deposit money is not physically in my hands, so can I really count that? And also, everyone knows my disdain for the entire NYC housing enterprise as a whole. From the process of renting (proving we make 40 times the rent, application fees, credit check fees, broker fees, guarantors! ugh!), to the skyrocketing rent prices, it's all a bunch of hocus pocus!

In addition to allllll of this, my current landlord texts me asking me to resign the lease (with the increased rent price).  I hadn't told him I didn't plan on resigning.  If I do stay past the first (which is TODAY), I will have to use this money I was going to put towards moving, to keep staying where I am, or worse, I risk losing my security deposit.  Why must New Yorkers live in constant fear of rent hikes every damn freakin year???  Can we live in peace???

Oh, and it was Thanksgiving.

Just very, very stressful times.  It made me start a Gofundme campaign.

(which is HERE if you want to go see it... nobody donated anything though -___-)

So I started the campaign to see if any super rich people wanted to toss me over some pocket change so I can live stress free for a year.  I thought it was a pretty good idea!  After I finished writing it up, I looked at a bunch of other Gofundme stuff.  There are a lot of people in this world who need help!  Like, SERIOUS freakin help.  It made me start thinking about charity and giving.  I've never been one to ask people for money.  Even if I was in dire need, I never ever would directly ask anyone I knew for ANYTHING.  I just wouldn't do it.  But how do we get the people who actually CAN help us, to listen to us?  How do the wealthy decide which charities need help the most?  Who should we give to when everyone is in need??  I am very torn on this subject people.  Literally everyone is in need.  How do we help everyone without categorizing the severity of their problems?  Because in the end, whose to REALLY say what's worse?

Also, while I was doing some more digging into looking for donors to help me with my campaign, I noticed that most super rich people just give to actual charitable organizations rather than individuals.  I'm not sure my stance on charity organizations per-say, but I always wonder where the money goes.  How does it get dived up.  How do they decide who is eligible? All these hoops people have to jump through, just to get basic life necessities is insane.  The wealth in this world is so unevenly spread out that it sickens me.  A rich person could have a certain amount in the bank, never even being thought of, that could completely change the lives of people less fortunate.

In light of thinking of all this,  I realized that it is so much more of a blessing to give than receive.  Even a person like me who really doesn't live fancy or have much savings, I some how make it work for myself (and I seriously HONESTLY... DO NOT KNOW HOW).  I should be more helpful to others.  More giving.  The cycle of life will come around.  Instead of shopping for Black Friday, Cyber Monday... could you have given to someone in need?  For Christmas this year, I think I want to give more instead of worry about where I will GET stuff from.  Give and you shall receive!  I know it's hard to determine who is most in need, but hopefully something inside will speak to you. Just go with your gut.  It also doesn't even have to be monetary! If you have time, food, clothes, a kind word to spare, you can give that.

Don't get me wrong, my Gofundme campaign is still Hereeee for yall.  I still very much would like to move.  But also check out some other campaigns.  Giving has no limits :)

I will definitely be updating you next week, since today is the first, and something has to be done TODAYish.  Mehhhhh.  I'm still a bit stressed.


P.s. I want a Christmas tree :(

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