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Monday, November 24, 2014

To be or not to be...YOURSELF!  + being "fake deep"


Hello everyone! Happy Monday!  Also, happy Thanksgiving when it comes.  I'm working on Thanksgiving, but oh well, hopefully I will get food?? I better get some damn food if I'm working in a damn restaurant on fkcn Thanksgiving though, wtf?? As you can see, I get a little irate speaking on this subject.  There just better be turkey! Anywho, I've also decided that my new years resolution for next year will be to no longer work for "the man".  Working for the man for me entails clocking in, clocking out, getting a weekly paycheck, and following the rules and guidelines of a particular establishment.  After this year, I'm done with all of that bull crap!  I want to start building my own business, and not have to rely on someone else to survive.  I know it sounds like a crazy idea, and I know I don't really have any solid business plans, but creative people are...well... creative! I'm sure I will think of something.  Also, I've (roughly) completed ever single New Years resolution I've set for myself over the past 5 years:

2010 - Move to Manhattan

2011 - Get a Mac

2012 - * I forgot, but I'm sure I did it*

2013 - Get my own apartment

2014 - Get 3 stamps on my passport

2015 - Work for myself

So in theory, I should be a little Oprah by the end of next year!

Anywho, getting into my topic for the day, being true to yourself!  And by that I mean being true to your TRUE self.  I semi feel like I've kinda sorta talked about this subject maybe a little bit before, but probably not in depth.  So many people live their lives not being true to themselves and/or trying to force themselves to be something they are not.  Once we just embrace the people who we really are inside, our lives will get so much easier!  Once we figure out that thing we are, we can begin to restructure how we act, think, and live!  It does take time to realize that you have been living a lie.  It's also a harsh reality to face sometimes, and people are leery of changing their whole lives around.  But sometimes change is the thing we need the most.
I will give some examples of how people are not true to their TRUE selves....starting with myself!

So, when I first moved to NYC, I believed in the statement "The early bird gets the worm" and all that jazz.  I felt like I had to be up very early...with the sun...even though I stay up late alllll the time.
Like seriously, when I was a kid (maybe 6 or 7),  me and my dad would watch scary movies in the middle of the night because he knew I was still awake.  I thrive at night!  Despite all of that, I tried to fit in with the rest of society by getting a 9-5 desk job. BIG mistake. HUGE.  I was ALWAYS late.  I ALWAYS fell asleep at work.  It was terrible, but I thought it's what I just had to do!  After I got fed up with the torture,  I decided to look for a night job.  It changed my life!  I no longer had to force myself to wake up at the ungodliest of hours.  I could stay up all night still, and sleep during the day.  It was perfect!  And it all began when I stopped trying to force something that I just simply wasn't.

Another example is relationships.  Now I'm not one to give relationship advice.  I feel as though every situation is unique, but I will say that relationships are always doomed if you aren't honest about who YOU truly are.  Some people are married for YEARS because they think it's just what you have to do in life.  If you know that you are not the monogamous type of person that most people look at as "desirable" in a typical relationship, why pretend like you are?? There are so many other options.  You could find someone who shares your beliefs rather than misleading someone who doesn't.  You could have an open relationship...you could be a swinger!  Whatever floats your boat.  Sometimes the truths we discover about ourselves may hurt to actually say out loud.  Just look deep inside, and when you are ready to share with the world, just know you will be so much happier. And so will everyone around you!

I would also like to talk about an interview with Jayden and Willow Smith that I skimmed over.  Now, let me begin by saying, I love these 2...especially Willow because she looks just like my niece! I would also like to say that these kids are just that, kids.  When you are that young, I suppose you are still figuring out many things about yourself, so it's kind of hard to be true to yourself when that SELF is always changing and figuring out what it actually wants to become. I guess the vibe they are going for now is... super extra far removed from societal normalcy? One of the comments of the interview proclaimed that the 2 were "fake deep".  Ha ha! I actually really like that term for some reason.  Some people really do try to be "fake deep" because that makes them seem... smarter I'm guessing?  Fake deepness is an emerging new popular trend.  Some may even think that this blog may be fake deep at times!  Well, maybe!  But these are really just random ramblings in my head that I go back and forth with all day anyway.  Trust me, there is plenty of undeep stuff in my head too.  Which I also write about sometimes! Point is, don't try to be fake deep to seem intriguing.  If it's truly in your head, fine, but it's also cool to be ditzy. Or atleast I think so.  I think I'm pretty ditzy sometimes.  Being deep takes too much emotional energy anyway.  Sometimes I just wanna chill, relax and have fun! Ahhhhhhh!

Anywho, that's it for this Monday guys!

P.s. I accidentally went to a mall (Atlantic Terminal...that's kind of a mall right?) on Saturday evening, and IT. WAS. TERRIBLE!!! So darn crowded! Go the hell online and buy some crap people, dang!

P.p.s. What are some of YOUR new years resolutions?? Do you ever stick to them?

Monday, November 17, 2014

Less is so much more!  (most of the time)

Hey guys! It's Monday again!  ( I'm really trying to stick to this Monday thing so I can have atleast ONE consistant thing going on in my life besides stupid work).  Anywho, this past week, a few of my friends from my job told me that they read my blog!  ANDDD they actually like my blog!  I couldn't help but to smile from ear to ear.  I actually think that people in this day and age don't read much of anything anymore.  It's all about the visual.  Shorter and shorter visuals at that!  People didn't have enough patience for a whole youtube video so they made vine for an even shorter attention span.  But oh wait, vine got to be too long too, so now there is snapchat.  A few seconds and it's gone and forgotten.  What about books people!  No, not articles online....NO not a buzzfeed list.  A freakin book!  (I'm guilty myself so let me stop playin', but I did use to really love this teen fiction series by Scott Westerfield... until I read them all )

In light of me sounding so disappointed with today's misuse of technological advances of which I am also guilty, I will now get into today's blog topic!

Less being more...

I may be dating myself a bit with this next question, but does anyone remember when Facebook first came out? When you had to have a college ID, you could only put up ONE main picture, and all you had was a wall for people to write?  So simple...so... genius!  the momentum for Facebook became insane because of it's simple interactive features.  It was absolutely perfect like that if you asked me.  People though much more about what ONE picture they could upload to show the world...to represent themselves without having to say a word.  Now... man oh man.... I definitely feel so freakin old because of all these new darn features and functions.  I'm in my dang 20s!  I should not feel lost on the internet.  I grew up on the internet! Even after Facebook, most of the other sites on the internet followed suit.  It's changed so much to the point where I have no clue how to navigate most things.




Everything has gotten way out of hand.  Why do the higher ups think that adding all of these things will ultimately make it better?  Why do they think we want all of these frilly unnecessary things?  I mean, I don't know about everyone else, but I don't.




                                           ***It's all about the muth fkcn money****

As I was thinking about my disdain for the "new wave" internet, I began to relate the less is more, core original idea theme to the things in my life.  Such as my Gettin' By show.  Does anybody remember that super awesome show?  It was so awesome right??  I remember putting those episodes out every Thursday.  However jankey they may have been (and some of them were pretty jankey).  But everyone loved them, and kept on watching.  Of course over the years, I wanted to improve and improve, as far as the quality of video, the content of video...over all outline of the episodes.  I took all of the input from people and the show has since changed quite a bit.  Now a days, I feel as though the raw natural aspect of the videos is lost in translation of my improvements. How is that?  How did that even come about?  I still pride myself on trying to keep it as simple and as off the cuff as possible, but things just never seem to align the way that they use to.  I need to figure out a way to keep all of the raw lovable aspects of the ORIGINAL ideas that I had.  They were great!  Why would I ever try to change that?

Don't you just hate when there is something you love in life and it randomly tries to change to keep up with everything going on? Less was more right? Think about it people, it relates to so many things.

Whenever you think something in your life is getting a bit out of hand, think about how all of the frills are making it more complicated.  Go back to the basics!  The structure of the thing.  The woodwork!  There was a reason the original idea did so good to begin with.  Because it was simple...and honest.  Hello people... honesty!  Bretony speaks the TRUTH!  Be true to the original simplistic beauty of your raw ideas and they will flourish if your focus is not lost.

That's why I'm glad I have had this blog for so long.  Same concept as when I first began almost 10 years ago!! (more like 8, but ALMOST 10)
Just write what I feel.  Write what I think.  Write what's going on in my life.  I haven't succumb to the "popular trends" of other blogs.  Haven't given into the "how to bring more traffic to your blog" blogs.  I frankly don't care!  The people who do read, I appreciate.  I don't want to incorporate gimmicks or tricks to get readers.  What kinda life is that?  If you like it, you like it.  If not, peace in the middle freakin east bro.  (Obviously I'd be a horrible salesperson)

Not really sure what else there is to say! Keep reading, keep trucking, and keep giving me feedback pleaseeeeeeee.

p.s. I say less is more MOST of the time because when it comes to food, less is not more! Also, when it comes to elaborate closets.... less is more is a case by case type of thing.



Peace!

Monday, November 10, 2014

Self - E


So you wake up in the morning, on a beautiful bright and sunny day.  What's the first thing you do?  Reach for your phone right?  See if you're popular enough to wake up to any texts, emails, instas, snaps, tinders, tweets, or any other random nonsensical forms of non human interaction communication.  You wake up to nothing.  So now it's on to plan b...take a selfie!  There's no better way to gain a little bit of superficial attention from your superficial social media friends than taking a selfie!  You don't wanna put on FULL makeup, so you throw on a little mascara...maybe a tinted lipstick, take your hair out of that scarf, find a little sunlight, and get to snappin!  20 minutes and 50 photos later, you have found a suitable picture for posting.  A few filters after that, you post!  Does this sound familiar to any of you?  It's ok, you don't have to admit it.  I have an Instagram timeline full of evidence!  Some people repeat this routine weekly, daily....sometimes multiple times a day!  Like... people can't get enough of ONE picture of you a day.  Has anyone of you ever stopped to think...why?  Why are these selfies so important to post for the world to see and judge?  For us to be categorized and rated based on the "likes" and comments?  Has our worth really come down to this?  

I've been trying to figure out my stance on this subject for the longest of times. For one, I am guilty of the selfie trap!  People love to look at pretty things, it's like inevitable.  It is innate in our biological make up to be drawn to things that are aesthetically pleasing.  But when did beauty become this vital to survival?  It seems to me like a person's beauty (or lack thereof) will determine everything you need to know about them.  Everything you want to hear from them.  Wether or not you want to work with them, be their friend, listen to what they have to say.  It saddens... and sickens me!  The beautiful celebrities that we see everyday, what's it really all about?  Does the prettier/sexier/more beautiful a celebrity is determine how popular they become?  I know I may have spoken of my Rihanna disdain before, but the woman is a perfect example.  The girl can't sing in my opinion, can't really dance.  Acting, hell no.  Creative? not really.  Gorgeous, yes ok.  The source of everyone's "WCW", sure.  But the main reason for her popularity is her beauty.  
One of the reasons why I left my job at the fancy lounge I worked at is because they put beauty on such a pedestal.  I was told to turn people away sometimes because of their looks, which I think is absolutely terrible.  ALSO, which is even more unsettling, I probably GOT the job because of the way I looked.  Everyone in that company treated the prettier people better.  It was all about sucking up to get to the top.  Not about how long you've been there or how hard you worked to make it an ACTUAL better place for everyone.  Ugh.  I will not be a pawn!
We have done this to ourselves people.  We have made it so important to the point where not much else matters.

What about the inside of our brains? Our intelligence?  Why isn't there an app where people post their iq test scores everyday?  Idk, maybe that was a reach, but oh well.


Yesterday I was at one of my friend's birthday parties, and it was like non stop camera phone flashing, videos, uploading and posting. I was about to go nuts! Why can't we just enjoy life without showing everyone how good of a time we are making it seem like we are having?  Doesn't it sound crazy when you break it down like that?
I just wish everyone wasn't so focused on looks sometimes.  Beauty sometimes is like chasing a drug high.  We try to look better and better.  Get more and more likes with each post.  These are not the things we should be aspiring to! ahhhhhh.

Idk guys, what do you think about all of this?  Because I gotta admit, the internal struggle to post selfies is strong!  I've been toying with the idea of seeing how long I can go without posting any pictures of my face.  Not sure how long I can go! But I can certainly try.  Hopefully I don't fall off the map and nobody cares about my blog anymore.  Eh.  That would suck.

Holler at a player!

P.s.

One of my blog readers mentioned me on their radio show yesterday!  It was so cool!  I love knowing that people are actually reading this thing.  If I inspire just one person, I will be happy :)

Monday, November 03, 2014

Bretony updates/ Happiness/ Money/ Monday


Hello everyone! So far the fall has been absolutely beautiful and not too cold (although last night I was freezing my balls off).  I just recently embarked on yet another excursion out of town.  I went with Ashleigh to her home town of New Orleans for her favorite holiday, Halloween!  It's pretty fun, she threw a really nice house party with all of her high school college friends...and me of course.  My costumes are always usually super last minute and consist of things I already have around the house, and this year was no different!  There is a silky robe that I really like from Victoria Secret, so I just wore that with some angel wings. Victoria Secret angel!  I think It turned out pretty good if you ask me.  New Orleans is really awesome, I wish I got to spend more time here.  I really have to start my food/ bar/ nightlife review travel advisory type blog thing soon so I can tell everyone specifically all the places I like (no time like the present I guess right?  Man I have so many ideas in this head, I really need to narrow down sometimes!)



Anywho, as I started trying desperately to think of a new blog topic to write about, I stumbled upon this article about Happiness vs. Meaningfulness...  In this article, a holocaust survivor writes about why he thinks having meaning matters more than being happy.
First of all...what???   Second of all...Lawd.  These psychologists really try to get all deep sometimes and confuse people!  I mean, I kinda sorta understood where he was coming from, but then again, eh.  The gist of what he was getting at I suppose is that some people have the wrong idea of happiness:  putting happiness in material things and pursuing selfish desires.  When we should really be leading a meaningful life in which we will have to sacrifice some of our happiness for the greater good.  Also included in this article are a bunch of mumbo jumbo statistics (which I really hate most statistical things because 8 out of 10 are completely made up).

My view on happiness is a bit different.  I like to consider myself a generally happy person, and I also think that my life is pretty darn meaningful.  In fact, I think that everyones life is meaningful! Even if you work at McDonalds mopping floors everyday.  You are still a part of the circle of life!  A part of the chain reactions in peoples everyday lives.  Just because we all aren't in the newspapers or on tv, doesn't mean that we don't impact things in the world. We ALL do.  Everyone has meaning whether they like it or not.  Not everyone is happy though.  Which I think has partly to do with the fact that we don't all think we have any meaning.  I admit even I get a little down when I realize that I've just slept until 5pm and haven't done anything significant with the greater part of the day.  But we shouldn't beat ourselves up.  Everyone has different paths, and they are all our own story... and meaningful!  Being happy depends on our mindset...our outlook on our certain situations.  One person could see them working as the janitor at McDonalds and think "Woe is my life, how did I end up like this?  I could've been anything in the world if I tried a little harder. I'm gonna go home and drink myself into an eternal coma"...OR that same person could think "I'm glad that I have this job as a stepping stone to facilitate my dreams and the dreams of everyone else working here!"

Just a state of mind I believe.  There was a song we sung in church...

This joy that I have, the world didn't give it to me (repeated 3 times)
The world didn't give it, the world can't take it
The world can't take it away

Great song! and true!

People often associate happiness with money waaaaay too often.  Which brings me to my other topic of discussion: money!  I told my sister I should teach a freakin class about money...and how NOT to worry about it.  Money is the root of all evil! And also many other things.  I have found in my life that the less I actually think about it, the less I have to worry about it!  It really is that simple people.  I know you may have a bunch of bills and things you have to pay for, but also, money comes to you as well!



 Instead of focusing on how it comes to us, we focus more on how it leaves us. Money is fluid. It comes, it goes.  You can't take it with you when you die, so you shouldn't worry about it so much in life.  Things have a way of working themselves out based on your levels of faith.  Gonna give you an example based on my actual experience:

So you know how I went to Haiti a few weeks ago? When I went there, I probably had about 200 dollars left in my bank account (which is another tip I have: never look at your bank account! A watched pot never boils!).  Rent was due in about 3 weeks (which is about 6 times more than what I had in the bank).  I only make about 150 a week from the job I have now...So theoretically... I wasn't going to have enough for rent!  Was I worried?  Am I ever?  Heck no!  I planned ANOTHER trip in spite of it all.  On the day of my flight to New Orleans, I looked in my mailbox and I had a federal tax refund check.  What the heck?? I haven't gotten a tax refund in years (due to student loan debt).  Everything worked out so perfectly!  Faith people.  Faith.

Alright, that's it for this long a** blog.

P.s.  I have decided I will be doing this blog a little bit more consistently.  Every Monday to be exact!  I still have to think of a tag line for social media (meaningful Monday maybe?? eh!)

But anywho, stay tuned for next weeks installment!  And as always, feedback is GREATLY appreciated.

Peace in the middle east!