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Monday, December 29, 2014

Honest T + cliche' NYE

So this is officially my last blog post of the year. My how time flies! This past week, besides my last day of work, it was Christmas! Christmas didn't feel like Christmas... As usual. I think it stops feeling like that when your parents stop giving you wrapped presents under a tree claiming it's not from them. Maybe it starts feeling like it again when you have kids of your own! Anywho, the next major holiday, New Year's Eve, is always pretty traumatic if you ask me.  We scramble around trying to find the perfect thing to be doing at the exact moment it switches over. So overhyped! Just like birthdays.  So much freakin climax until... It happens... And then it's over. Meh.

I know that everyone always wants to make a bunch of resolutions and whatnot. And I'm no exception! I just wanna say, whatever resolution you make, make sure it's realistic (to your own standards). I HATE the quit smoking or quit drinking ones (even though I LOATHE smoke), only because no one is ever really serious about that. AT all. And if you are, why pick New Years as an excuse?

Idk, I just think pick something that could be a year-wise goal. But do what you want! I know you will anyway.

Another thing I wanted to talk about in my last post of the year, honesty.  Not sure why this was on my mind this past week, but I feel as though so many of the problems in this world can be avoided if people were just a little bit more honest. I mean, ofcourse there is a lie here and there every once in a while, but overall, why aren't we more honest with one another about our feelings, intentions, desires, thoughts? The truth is definitely scary, I agree. It's hard to tell people the truth.  Especially the ones you love, and ESPECIALLY if it's something you think might make them change the way they feel about you, but comeoooon. It feels so relieving to just be honest.  You won't have to sneak around or hide. You can speak freely. It's pretty awesome.  Think of the best friend that you currently have....

Now think of how much they know about you.  Do you keep many secrets from them? Probably not! And how good does that feel? Amazing right! Such a stress reliever!  I don't understand how people can be in relationships where they lie to each other or keep things. Isn't that just exhausting?? Ugh. The truth is great. I think we should all practice using it much more often.

But don't be too abrasive with it! A lot of people confuse honesty with rudeness.  There is a way to say things to people as to not offend them, ya know?

Oh well guys and dolls, I'm just trying to spread a little advice across the land.  Let me know what you are gonna be doing on New Years! I have no plans as of yet : /

But something free!

P.s. I already have a new sorta kinda job haha.  Maybe I will tell about it in the next blog....

P.p.s. So apparently on Christmas Day there was a huge flight sale... My friend told me about it, and I immediately went online.  Round trip flights to Abu Dhabi from NYC were as low as $187!! I thought about it wayyyy too much, and by the time I checked back, prices went back up to about a thousand. -______-

I'm still mad!

Monday, December 22, 2014


Hello world hehe I don’t know this is weird. Did you catch that? Did you catch that I don’t know this is weird. Did you type in hello world? What are you typing? ughhhhhhh. Stop! Okay, go back. 

Well as you can tell by now, it is not actually me typing. For the first time in my blog history I have a transcriber! This is weird man, STOP. anyway, They’re typing literally every- all of my inflections. Right now I’m getting dressed (that’s why I have a transcriber) for a business venture of sorts, you could say (more to come on that next week). Not quite sure how it’s gonna turn out, but i’m going to go check it out because…why not?  

Because you know after Christmas Eve, I will no longer have a job. MERRY CHRISTMAS! Happy Chanukah!  Happy Kwanzaa!

Alright um, what was I about to say? I was gonna talk about something I was thinking about it in the shower but I forgot. Oh yeah. um. It’s hard to word this. 

The quote for the day is “if you can’t beat em, join em. Then defeat them” and it’s true. Because it’s exactly what I’m doing at this very moment as far as a job is concerned. Over this past week I have been watching a lot of documentary films and I’m trying to find a way that I could protest and fight the power, stick it to the man, without getting murdered by the government. So I’ve decided to come up with a plan: IYCBEJETDT, gotta work a bit on the acronym title to make it a bit more internet friendly but that’s it for now. 

OK, I’ve decided to type for myself now:

The more I think about it, the more I feel like I was put here to help people think differently about certain situations going on in this crazy mixed up world.  i know it may seem very far fetched to do so being little ole me, just one measly person.  But who knows, maybe that’s why more people don’t speak out.  Fear holds us all back! I admit, It holds me back a little too.  Fear of everything from failure, to not being understood, to being punished!  But that is why we have to fight in such a way that’s….well…. kind of sneaky!

Do you all remember when I talked about the selfie epidemic a few blogs ago?  How I stopped taking selfies on instagram and what not to “prove something”? Well, I’ve recently decided to maybe restructure my thinking to get more people involved. Maybe I SHOULD actually post some selfies.  Some really nice ones.  Maybe even with my professional camera.  That would definitely gain more attention (even though that’s not the ideal way I would like to gain it).  But then with the growing popularity that selfie likers give, I could THEN implement my statements about how I feel about them on a more board spectrum.  Sneaky right!

I suppose this way isn’t all that bad if you just stay focused on your goal.  Even relating to my work situation….  I hated the company for a while before I actually quit, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t stay there to gain more evidence in the fight I would need against them, so i stuck around!  Sometimes, you can’t take down something without first joining forces with it.  That may sound a bit grim, but it’s true.  I would never use it in the purely vindictive sense of course, but in the case of social problems and big business, I feel as though this is a great way.  Think about it!

Anywho, this post will be short because I actually forgot it was Monday and I have to run!  What a very hectic holiday week!  Peace everyone!  And I have one more blog before the New year, so if you have suggestions, let me know!

P.s.  I have no NYE plans, ahhhh!

p.p.s. I want a Christmas tree :(

Monday, December 15, 2014


Hello everyone!

Happy Monday! Dang, today really snuck up on me. It's been a crazy week to say the least. In addition to still not knowing what I'm going to be doing about my living situation, I have more news that is pretty life changing.

I quit my job!

Yea, let that marinate. The job I've been working at for almost half my time living in NYC will be no more by Christmas Eve. Now... I know my decisions can be super rash sometimes. I agree! It was sort of a sudden impulse, but I believe I had good reasons for doing what I did. Let me tell y'all!
(Not sure what kind of confidentiality agreements I may or may not have signed with this company, so I'll speak a bit vaguely. Once I find out that I didn't sign one, I'm making a damn expose'!)

It all began around last year May... I had been working with the company for about a year. I would like to say I was one of the better employees who knew what I was doing and didn't screw up. Not sure if some of you remember, but last year around May is when I suddenly had to leave my Washington heights apartment because the rent went up and everyone in the apartment couldn't afford it, so we had to ALL move that month.  I asked my manager about a $2 dollar raise. They said I would have to have an evaluation and they would let me know. Blah. ( I think they actually train managers to dodge raise talk from employees) They were taking VERY long to get around to discussing my raise, and I eventually had to leave the city because I couldn't find any place to move that fast.  I actually transferred WITHIN the company to the hamptons location ONLY because they provided housing. When I saved up and moved back to the city, I came back to the city location. I had saved up enough to pay rent for a few months so I was living fine.  Around last December is I think when I asked for a raise again.  They made up some excuse about how I was technically a new employee again so I had to wait at least 3 months to get reevaluated -___-

In the meantime, I started working for both of their city locations because they asked me to come help out at the other one. I was personally asked to come to the other location mind you.  I was even asked how much I wanted to make.  I told them an amount that would be a 4 dollar raise than what I was getting (hey, why not).  After I signed the wage form, I was told that I can't make 2 different amounts at 2 different places because it was still the same company. Ahhhh. I asked if I were to get a raise at the other location, would I get one here too. I was told yes, so I continued working for both. Three months later I eventually got my measly 2 dollar raise I had been trying to get for the last YEAR! Everything was fine.

As you all my also know, around August is when I stopped working at the first location I was hired.  I had just been working for the second location at this point.
Going about my life for the past few months, I had been getting direct deposit, so I wasn't seeing my actual checks.....

So here comes the kicker.  As you know, when you look for a new apartment, you have to show pay-stubs.  I asked my HR lady if I could have access to see them online.  To my utter and sheer terror, I found out that after I left the first location, they LOWERED my pay BACK down to what it originally was when I FIRST started working for them... 3 damn years ago!

You can believe I was a wee upset. I immediately went to go speak with the general manager (Who mind you has also been the general manager at the first location and beach location, so he should know my struggle).  When I spoke with him the day I found out, he seemed.... Irritated with me.  He actually sounded rather cold in the way he explained I should have been keeping track of everything. He also seemed annoyed that I wanted to know what to do about clocking in the next day.  He even said if I didn't want to come in tomorrow because of this than don't, but he wouldn't know any answers for probably a week.

Oh yea? This is how you treat a long time employee??? Who has been lied to about their money???? Like, there was no remorse! Rather, I was met with this response?? I just can't with this company! The employees are treated like straight crap. It's like if you aren't a manager, you are a bottom feeder!  I wanted to quit right then and there... In his face! I took a breath and called some friends who talked me down off of that ledge.  I decided to speak with HR again in person the next day.  Basically they told me since it was 2 different places, when I left the other one, they lowered it down. (But remember how they couldn't give me the 4 dollar raise because it was the SAME company? Ok)

HR lady was sympathetic at least. She understood that I was lied to... Bamboozled... Deceived!  She said that she would be able to do retro pay for the months my pay was lowered without my knowledge, but moving forward, the company couldn't afford to pay me what I was making at the first location... 2... Damn... Dollars! I've seen paperwork on this place, they comp enough food and drinks to pay me for a month in one night! Of all the areas to "save money" you do it on the employees? This place doesn't even give staff meals everyday! We don't get shift drinks either.  I came to the place where I worked to eat in the restaurant ONE time with another person who also worked for them. You wanna know what they comped for me? Their faithful employee? ONE glass of our wine. Not even both though?? I tell you, I have just really been fed up with the corporate politics of this damn place.  You would think they had STANDARDS to uphold, but nope. 

I just feel so completely disrespected and lied to. I'd rather be homeless and eat out of the garbage than continue working for people like that. I told them my last day would be Christmas Eve. It's really a shame, because the friends I've made working here will be LIFE long friends of mine. But some of them just don't know their worth, and keep working without fighting for change because they are scared of losing their job.

I say to everyone... NEVER sacrifice your self respect. Know your worth! I know the job market is tough, and so do these companies, but someone has to take a stand or nothing will ever get better.  Since working there, my rent has nearly tripled, but they expect me to work for the same pay? Inflation mutha f*ckas! People can't live like that! Demand the respect you deserve people. You don't have to be as extreme as me, but for real, it's not right to put up with this.  It's just like being in a bad relationship kinda.  If you know you aren't being treated right, why put up with it?  Yes there will be arguments, but damn! If you aren't being treated with the respect that you know you deserve, get out now. You are worth more than that. So much more.

Not sure what will happen with me moving forward, but I'm excited. Change is good sometimes.  I took the same leap of faith moving to NYC, so I know it will all work out.  Stay tuned for the revolution people.

Also, if any current or past employees are reading, please comment! Anonymously if you like :)

P.s. Did you know that Hugh Hefner quit his job because they wouldn't give him a 5 dollar raise? He went on to publish his first copy of Playboy.

P.p.s tonight is the annual Christmas staff party for the company. I plan on getting very drunk.

Monday, December 08, 2014

Hello world! It's me again, Bretony.  It's also Monday again.  So glad I'm sticking with this Monday blog!  It really gives me a sense of some sort of discipline in my random chaotic ADHD life.

Well, I suppose I'm just gonna jump right into the topic for today... the civil unrest in the "United" States... due to...well many, many things.  I actually debated on discussing anything about this topic at all.  Frankly (if I can be Frank for a minute), I'm not quite sure which aspect to even begin addressing.  There have been so many protests about the lack of convictions in black/white police/civilian fatal altercations. The whole country is at a very uncomfortable unrest.  It's turning everyone against everyone.  What is there to even say anymore?  I came across an article about how black people are lashing out at white entertainers (who supposedly are down with the black community in other ways) who haven't "spoken out" on the subject matter.  I've come across articles about riots and uproar.  I've come across endless status updates about how the police need to be stopped from doing whatever the heck they want with out consequence.  Everyone seems to have an opinion.  Everybody wants change.  Everybody is protesting and petitioning for change.  We all want the world to be a better, safer place.

But all of this begins with us.

Michael Jackson said it best!  I'm starting with the man in the mirror.  The world will never change unless WE change ourselves.  It seems as though everyone is so concerned with changing others, we forget that we should probably change ourselves too.  There are so many problems in this world that it's kind of like a junky room.  You know it's a mess.  You know you have to clean it, but where do you even begin?

The important thing that I want everyone to remember when discussing your opinions on the state of the world today is that love will help us more than hate.  It's hard for me too, to not be angry and want to start an uproar with the people who have done me wrong, but we have to maintain the love inside of us!  Everybody is just so.... angry.  I even feel like I might get backlash for my views of peace.  "Why aren't you more upset? Your people are getting murdered!  Fight for your rights!  Wake up and get your head out of the love clouds!"

I just don't know man.  But I do know that I'd rather spend my short sweet lifetime free from anger, stress and hate.  Bad things will always happen.  So will good things.  We can work on changing the bad things we don't like one step at a time.  When I have a dirty room and I don't know where to begin, I start with making some food.  I have to be happy first!  If I'm not in a place of peace before I start to clean, I'll just be angry and frustrated the entire time, ya know?

This week I actually had a random thought to become a politician.  I know, I know, terrible idea right?  But it seems like I could be in a position to help implement the changes from a higher level of power.  I know that the government is mostly corrupt anyway, so I suppose I will stick with my blog and videos to get my point across.  At the end of the day, we all still have our voices if we have nothing else.  And I know that is the main purpose for all the talk and coverage of these cases... to make everyone aware of the things that are going on in our nation.  We are aware now.  Now what do we do?

Anywhoooo, I feel as though there are many areas of this subject that I did not touch on.  There is so much to say and so little time!  But I will not speak too much about it after this.  You won't see me posting any videos of police brutality.  I won't be posting statuses about how this world sucks and that I've lost faith in humanity.  This does not mean I don't care about the things going on in the world around me.  It means that I would rather promote love and self awareness than all of the terribleness in the world.  I don't even like to watch the news! All depressing!  This also does not mean I won't be doing anything to help improve the world.  But...I have to take baby steps.  I have to start with myself before I try to fix the whole world.

Stay positive everyone.

p.s.  I am trying to start a mailing list so if you would like to be added, subscribe to my mailing list! (just email me for now and I will add you

p.p.s.  I will also soon begin incorporating videos every week.  I will start with simple videos that go along with the blogs.  Just so I can make SURE I keep up with them.  I will let you know when I will start doing those.  Stay tuned!

Monday, December 01, 2014

Charity and YOU

Hello earth citizens!  It's me Bretony, of course.  It's always me (unless otherwise noted).  Anywho, life this past week has been pretty freakin stressful! To say the least!  Where do I begin....

Ok, so me and my very good friend have been semi sorta looking to move to a 2 bedroom apartment, which would be a little closer to the city for me, and also for her since she lives very far. So we've been casually looking, and last week we actually went looking at the same batch of apartments.  We found one that was amazinggggg!  It's huge! On the top floor of a 3 story townhouse type of thing, very high ceilings, 2 bedrooms, with one extra space (my friend said we should make that the living room, I think maybe a 3rd bedroom if someone needs somewhere to stay), and also another little extra room which can be used as a music room/ work out room/ make up room, whatever.  I actually made a list, prior to looking for places, of a bunch of qualifications I would like in my ideal apartment...and this place had everything but 2 things! (one of which was a swimming pool, so that obviously wasn't a deal breaker)  This is our dream apartment!

The only thing, it is out of our budget that we had set for ourselves.  I'm not in the situation like I was last year where I had saved up from my summer job.  All I really have is my current rent, my backup emergency rent fund (which is cash under my mattress), and the double security I put down when I first moved in.  This is technically enough to move, but the security deposit money is not physically in my hands, so can I really count that? And also, everyone knows my disdain for the entire NYC housing enterprise as a whole. From the process of renting (proving we make 40 times the rent, application fees, credit check fees, broker fees, guarantors! ugh!), to the skyrocketing rent prices, it's all a bunch of hocus pocus!

In addition to allllll of this, my current landlord texts me asking me to resign the lease (with the increased rent price).  I hadn't told him I didn't plan on resigning.  If I do stay past the first (which is TODAY), I will have to use this money I was going to put towards moving, to keep staying where I am, or worse, I risk losing my security deposit.  Why must New Yorkers live in constant fear of rent hikes every damn freakin year???  Can we live in peace???

Oh, and it was Thanksgiving.

Just very, very stressful times.  It made me start a Gofundme campaign.

(which is HERE if you want to go see it... nobody donated anything though -___-)

So I started the campaign to see if any super rich people wanted to toss me over some pocket change so I can live stress free for a year.  I thought it was a pretty good idea!  After I finished writing it up, I looked at a bunch of other Gofundme stuff.  There are a lot of people in this world who need help!  Like, SERIOUS freakin help.  It made me start thinking about charity and giving.  I've never been one to ask people for money.  Even if I was in dire need, I never ever would directly ask anyone I knew for ANYTHING.  I just wouldn't do it.  But how do we get the people who actually CAN help us, to listen to us?  How do the wealthy decide which charities need help the most?  Who should we give to when everyone is in need??  I am very torn on this subject people.  Literally everyone is in need.  How do we help everyone without categorizing the severity of their problems?  Because in the end, whose to REALLY say what's worse?

Also, while I was doing some more digging into looking for donors to help me with my campaign, I noticed that most super rich people just give to actual charitable organizations rather than individuals.  I'm not sure my stance on charity organizations per-say, but I always wonder where the money goes.  How does it get dived up.  How do they decide who is eligible? All these hoops people have to jump through, just to get basic life necessities is insane.  The wealth in this world is so unevenly spread out that it sickens me.  A rich person could have a certain amount in the bank, never even being thought of, that could completely change the lives of people less fortunate.

In light of thinking of all this,  I realized that it is so much more of a blessing to give than receive.  Even a person like me who really doesn't live fancy or have much savings, I some how make it work for myself (and I seriously HONESTLY... DO NOT KNOW HOW).  I should be more helpful to others.  More giving.  The cycle of life will come around.  Instead of shopping for Black Friday, Cyber Monday... could you have given to someone in need?  For Christmas this year, I think I want to give more instead of worry about where I will GET stuff from.  Give and you shall receive!  I know it's hard to determine who is most in need, but hopefully something inside will speak to you. Just go with your gut.  It also doesn't even have to be monetary! If you have time, food, clothes, a kind word to spare, you can give that.

Don't get me wrong, my Gofundme campaign is still Hereeee for yall.  I still very much would like to move.  But also check out some other campaigns.  Giving has no limits :)

I will definitely be updating you next week, since today is the first, and something has to be done TODAYish.  Mehhhhh.  I'm still a bit stressed.


P.s. I want a Christmas tree :(

p.p.s email me!

Monday, November 24, 2014

To be or not to be...YOURSELF!  + being "fake deep"

Hello everyone! Happy Monday!  Also, happy Thanksgiving when it comes.  I'm working on Thanksgiving, but oh well, hopefully I will get food?? I better get some damn food if I'm working in a damn restaurant on fkcn Thanksgiving though, wtf?? As you can see, I get a little irate speaking on this subject.  There just better be turkey! Anywho, I've also decided that my new years resolution for next year will be to no longer work for "the man".  Working for the man for me entails clocking in, clocking out, getting a weekly paycheck, and following the rules and guidelines of a particular establishment.  After this year, I'm done with all of that bull crap!  I want to start building my own business, and not have to rely on someone else to survive.  I know it sounds like a crazy idea, and I know I don't really have any solid business plans, but creative people are...well... creative! I'm sure I will think of something.  Also, I've (roughly) completed ever single New Years resolution I've set for myself over the past 5 years:

2010 - Move to Manhattan

2011 - Get a Mac

2012 - * I forgot, but I'm sure I did it*

2013 - Get my own apartment

2014 - Get 3 stamps on my passport

2015 - Work for myself

So in theory, I should be a little Oprah by the end of next year!

Anywho, getting into my topic for the day, being true to yourself!  And by that I mean being true to your TRUE self.  I semi feel like I've kinda sorta talked about this subject maybe a little bit before, but probably not in depth.  So many people live their lives not being true to themselves and/or trying to force themselves to be something they are not.  Once we just embrace the people who we really are inside, our lives will get so much easier!  Once we figure out that thing we are, we can begin to restructure how we act, think, and live!  It does take time to realize that you have been living a lie.  It's also a harsh reality to face sometimes, and people are leery of changing their whole lives around.  But sometimes change is the thing we need the most.
I will give some examples of how people are not true to their TRUE selves....starting with myself!

So, when I first moved to NYC, I believed in the statement "The early bird gets the worm" and all that jazz.  I felt like I had to be up very early...with the sun...even though I stay up late alllll the time.
Like seriously, when I was a kid (maybe 6 or 7),  me and my dad would watch scary movies in the middle of the night because he knew I was still awake.  I thrive at night!  Despite all of that, I tried to fit in with the rest of society by getting a 9-5 desk job. BIG mistake. HUGE.  I was ALWAYS late.  I ALWAYS fell asleep at work.  It was terrible, but I thought it's what I just had to do!  After I got fed up with the torture,  I decided to look for a night job.  It changed my life!  I no longer had to force myself to wake up at the ungodliest of hours.  I could stay up all night still, and sleep during the day.  It was perfect!  And it all began when I stopped trying to force something that I just simply wasn't.

Another example is relationships.  Now I'm not one to give relationship advice.  I feel as though every situation is unique, but I will say that relationships are always doomed if you aren't honest about who YOU truly are.  Some people are married for YEARS because they think it's just what you have to do in life.  If you know that you are not the monogamous type of person that most people look at as "desirable" in a typical relationship, why pretend like you are?? There are so many other options.  You could find someone who shares your beliefs rather than misleading someone who doesn't.  You could have an open could be a swinger!  Whatever floats your boat.  Sometimes the truths we discover about ourselves may hurt to actually say out loud.  Just look deep inside, and when you are ready to share with the world, just know you will be so much happier. And so will everyone around you!

I would also like to talk about an interview with Jayden and Willow Smith that I skimmed over.  Now, let me begin by saying, I love these 2...especially Willow because she looks just like my niece! I would also like to say that these kids are just that, kids.  When you are that young, I suppose you are still figuring out many things about yourself, so it's kind of hard to be true to yourself when that SELF is always changing and figuring out what it actually wants to become. I guess the vibe they are going for now is... super extra far removed from societal normalcy? One of the comments of the interview proclaimed that the 2 were "fake deep".  Ha ha! I actually really like that term for some reason.  Some people really do try to be "fake deep" because that makes them seem... smarter I'm guessing?  Fake deepness is an emerging new popular trend.  Some may even think that this blog may be fake deep at times!  Well, maybe!  But these are really just random ramblings in my head that I go back and forth with all day anyway.  Trust me, there is plenty of undeep stuff in my head too.  Which I also write about sometimes! Point is, don't try to be fake deep to seem intriguing.  If it's truly in your head, fine, but it's also cool to be ditzy. Or atleast I think so.  I think I'm pretty ditzy sometimes.  Being deep takes too much emotional energy anyway.  Sometimes I just wanna chill, relax and have fun! Ahhhhhhh!

Anywho, that's it for this Monday guys!

P.s. I accidentally went to a mall (Atlantic Terminal...that's kind of a mall right?) on Saturday evening, and IT. WAS. TERRIBLE!!! So darn crowded! Go the hell online and buy some crap people, dang!

P.p.s. What are some of YOUR new years resolutions?? Do you ever stick to them?

Monday, November 17, 2014

Less is so much more!  (most of the time)

Hey guys! It's Monday again!  ( I'm really trying to stick to this Monday thing so I can have atleast ONE consistant thing going on in my life besides stupid work).  Anywho, this past week, a few of my friends from my job told me that they read my blog!  ANDDD they actually like my blog!  I couldn't help but to smile from ear to ear.  I actually think that people in this day and age don't read much of anything anymore.  It's all about the visual.  Shorter and shorter visuals at that!  People didn't have enough patience for a whole youtube video so they made vine for an even shorter attention span.  But oh wait, vine got to be too long too, so now there is snapchat.  A few seconds and it's gone and forgotten.  What about books people!  No, not articles online....NO not a buzzfeed list.  A freakin book!  (I'm guilty myself so let me stop playin', but I did use to really love this teen fiction series by Scott Westerfield... until I read them all )

In light of me sounding so disappointed with today's misuse of technological advances of which I am also guilty, I will now get into today's blog topic!

Less being more...

I may be dating myself a bit with this next question, but does anyone remember when Facebook first came out? When you had to have a college ID, you could only put up ONE main picture, and all you had was a wall for people to write?  So genius!  the momentum for Facebook became insane because of it's simple interactive features.  It was absolutely perfect like that if you asked me.  People though much more about what ONE picture they could upload to show the represent themselves without having to say a word.  Now... man oh man.... I definitely feel so freakin old because of all these new darn features and functions.  I'm in my dang 20s!  I should not feel lost on the internet.  I grew up on the internet! Even after Facebook, most of the other sites on the internet followed suit.  It's changed so much to the point where I have no clue how to navigate most things.

Everything has gotten way out of hand.  Why do the higher ups think that adding all of these things will ultimately make it better?  Why do they think we want all of these frilly unnecessary things?  I mean, I don't know about everyone else, but I don't.

                                           ***It's all about the muth fkcn money****

As I was thinking about my disdain for the "new wave" internet, I began to relate the less is more, core original idea theme to the things in my life.  Such as my Gettin' By show.  Does anybody remember that super awesome show?  It was so awesome right??  I remember putting those episodes out every Thursday.  However jankey they may have been (and some of them were pretty jankey).  But everyone loved them, and kept on watching.  Of course over the years, I wanted to improve and improve, as far as the quality of video, the content of video...over all outline of the episodes.  I took all of the input from people and the show has since changed quite a bit.  Now a days, I feel as though the raw natural aspect of the videos is lost in translation of my improvements. How is that?  How did that even come about?  I still pride myself on trying to keep it as simple and as off the cuff as possible, but things just never seem to align the way that they use to.  I need to figure out a way to keep all of the raw lovable aspects of the ORIGINAL ideas that I had.  They were great!  Why would I ever try to change that?

Don't you just hate when there is something you love in life and it randomly tries to change to keep up with everything going on? Less was more right? Think about it people, it relates to so many things.

Whenever you think something in your life is getting a bit out of hand, think about how all of the frills are making it more complicated.  Go back to the basics!  The structure of the thing.  The woodwork!  There was a reason the original idea did so good to begin with.  Because it was simple...and honest.  Hello people... honesty!  Bretony speaks the TRUTH!  Be true to the original simplistic beauty of your raw ideas and they will flourish if your focus is not lost.

That's why I'm glad I have had this blog for so long.  Same concept as when I first began almost 10 years ago!! (more like 8, but ALMOST 10)
Just write what I feel.  Write what I think.  Write what's going on in my life.  I haven't succumb to the "popular trends" of other blogs.  Haven't given into the "how to bring more traffic to your blog" blogs.  I frankly don't care!  The people who do read, I appreciate.  I don't want to incorporate gimmicks or tricks to get readers.  What kinda life is that?  If you like it, you like it.  If not, peace in the middle freakin east bro.  (Obviously I'd be a horrible salesperson)

Not really sure what else there is to say! Keep reading, keep trucking, and keep giving me feedback pleaseeeeeeee.

p.s. I say less is more MOST of the time because when it comes to food, less is not more! Also, when it comes to elaborate closets.... less is more is a case by case type of thing.


Monday, November 10, 2014

Self - E

So you wake up in the morning, on a beautiful bright and sunny day.  What's the first thing you do?  Reach for your phone right?  See if you're popular enough to wake up to any texts, emails, instas, snaps, tinders, tweets, or any other random nonsensical forms of non human interaction communication.  You wake up to nothing.  So now it's on to plan b...take a selfie!  There's no better way to gain a little bit of superficial attention from your superficial social media friends than taking a selfie!  You don't wanna put on FULL makeup, so you throw on a little mascara...maybe a tinted lipstick, take your hair out of that scarf, find a little sunlight, and get to snappin!  20 minutes and 50 photos later, you have found a suitable picture for posting.  A few filters after that, you post!  Does this sound familiar to any of you?  It's ok, you don't have to admit it.  I have an Instagram timeline full of evidence!  Some people repeat this routine weekly, daily....sometimes multiple times a day!  Like... people can't get enough of ONE picture of you a day.  Has anyone of you ever stopped to think...why?  Why are these selfies so important to post for the world to see and judge?  For us to be categorized and rated based on the "likes" and comments?  Has our worth really come down to this?  

I've been trying to figure out my stance on this subject for the longest of times. For one, I am guilty of the selfie trap!  People love to look at pretty things, it's like inevitable.  It is innate in our biological make up to be drawn to things that are aesthetically pleasing.  But when did beauty become this vital to survival?  It seems to me like a person's beauty (or lack thereof) will determine everything you need to know about them.  Everything you want to hear from them.  Wether or not you want to work with them, be their friend, listen to what they have to say.  It saddens... and sickens me!  The beautiful celebrities that we see everyday, what's it really all about?  Does the prettier/sexier/more beautiful a celebrity is determine how popular they become?  I know I may have spoken of my Rihanna disdain before, but the woman is a perfect example.  The girl can't sing in my opinion, can't really dance.  Acting, hell no.  Creative? not really.  Gorgeous, yes ok.  The source of everyone's "WCW", sure.  But the main reason for her popularity is her beauty.  
One of the reasons why I left my job at the fancy lounge I worked at is because they put beauty on such a pedestal.  I was told to turn people away sometimes because of their looks, which I think is absolutely terrible.  ALSO, which is even more unsettling, I probably GOT the job because of the way I looked.  Everyone in that company treated the prettier people better.  It was all about sucking up to get to the top.  Not about how long you've been there or how hard you worked to make it an ACTUAL better place for everyone.  Ugh.  I will not be a pawn!
We have done this to ourselves people.  We have made it so important to the point where not much else matters.

What about the inside of our brains? Our intelligence?  Why isn't there an app where people post their iq test scores everyday?  Idk, maybe that was a reach, but oh well.

Yesterday I was at one of my friend's birthday parties, and it was like non stop camera phone flashing, videos, uploading and posting. I was about to go nuts! Why can't we just enjoy life without showing everyone how good of a time we are making it seem like we are having?  Doesn't it sound crazy when you break it down like that?
I just wish everyone wasn't so focused on looks sometimes.  Beauty sometimes is like chasing a drug high.  We try to look better and better.  Get more and more likes with each post.  These are not the things we should be aspiring to! ahhhhhh.

Idk guys, what do you think about all of this?  Because I gotta admit, the internal struggle to post selfies is strong!  I've been toying with the idea of seeing how long I can go without posting any pictures of my face.  Not sure how long I can go! But I can certainly try.  Hopefully I don't fall off the map and nobody cares about my blog anymore.  Eh.  That would suck.

Holler at a player!


One of my blog readers mentioned me on their radio show yesterday!  It was so cool!  I love knowing that people are actually reading this thing.  If I inspire just one person, I will be happy :)

Monday, November 03, 2014

Bretony updates/ Happiness/ Money/ Monday

Hello everyone! So far the fall has been absolutely beautiful and not too cold (although last night I was freezing my balls off).  I just recently embarked on yet another excursion out of town.  I went with Ashleigh to her home town of New Orleans for her favorite holiday, Halloween!  It's pretty fun, she threw a really nice house party with all of her high school college friends...and me of course.  My costumes are always usually super last minute and consist of things I already have around the house, and this year was no different!  There is a silky robe that I really like from Victoria Secret, so I just wore that with some angel wings. Victoria Secret angel!  I think It turned out pretty good if you ask me.  New Orleans is really awesome, I wish I got to spend more time here.  I really have to start my food/ bar/ nightlife review travel advisory type blog thing soon so I can tell everyone specifically all the places I like (no time like the present I guess right?  Man I have so many ideas in this head, I really need to narrow down sometimes!)

Anywho, as I started trying desperately to think of a new blog topic to write about, I stumbled upon this article about Happiness vs. Meaningfulness...  In this article, a holocaust survivor writes about why he thinks having meaning matters more than being happy.
First of all...what???   Second of all...Lawd.  These psychologists really try to get all deep sometimes and confuse people!  I mean, I kinda sorta understood where he was coming from, but then again, eh.  The gist of what he was getting at I suppose is that some people have the wrong idea of happiness:  putting happiness in material things and pursuing selfish desires.  When we should really be leading a meaningful life in which we will have to sacrifice some of our happiness for the greater good.  Also included in this article are a bunch of mumbo jumbo statistics (which I really hate most statistical things because 8 out of 10 are completely made up).

My view on happiness is a bit different.  I like to consider myself a generally happy person, and I also think that my life is pretty darn meaningful.  In fact, I think that everyones life is meaningful! Even if you work at McDonalds mopping floors everyday.  You are still a part of the circle of life!  A part of the chain reactions in peoples everyday lives.  Just because we all aren't in the newspapers or on tv, doesn't mean that we don't impact things in the world. We ALL do.  Everyone has meaning whether they like it or not.  Not everyone is happy though.  Which I think has partly to do with the fact that we don't all think we have any meaning.  I admit even I get a little down when I realize that I've just slept until 5pm and haven't done anything significant with the greater part of the day.  But we shouldn't beat ourselves up.  Everyone has different paths, and they are all our own story... and meaningful!  Being happy depends on our mindset...our outlook on our certain situations.  One person could see them working as the janitor at McDonalds and think "Woe is my life, how did I end up like this?  I could've been anything in the world if I tried a little harder. I'm gonna go home and drink myself into an eternal coma"...OR that same person could think "I'm glad that I have this job as a stepping stone to facilitate my dreams and the dreams of everyone else working here!"

Just a state of mind I believe.  There was a song we sung in church...

This joy that I have, the world didn't give it to me (repeated 3 times)
The world didn't give it, the world can't take it
The world can't take it away

Great song! and true!

People often associate happiness with money waaaaay too often.  Which brings me to my other topic of discussion: money!  I told my sister I should teach a freakin class about money...and how NOT to worry about it.  Money is the root of all evil! And also many other things.  I have found in my life that the less I actually think about it, the less I have to worry about it!  It really is that simple people.  I know you may have a bunch of bills and things you have to pay for, but also, money comes to you as well!

 Instead of focusing on how it comes to us, we focus more on how it leaves us. Money is fluid. It comes, it goes.  You can't take it with you when you die, so you shouldn't worry about it so much in life.  Things have a way of working themselves out based on your levels of faith.  Gonna give you an example based on my actual experience:

So you know how I went to Haiti a few weeks ago? When I went there, I probably had about 200 dollars left in my bank account (which is another tip I have: never look at your bank account! A watched pot never boils!).  Rent was due in about 3 weeks (which is about 6 times more than what I had in the bank).  I only make about 150 a week from the job I have now...So theoretically... I wasn't going to have enough for rent!  Was I worried?  Am I ever?  Heck no!  I planned ANOTHER trip in spite of it all.  On the day of my flight to New Orleans, I looked in my mailbox and I had a federal tax refund check.  What the heck?? I haven't gotten a tax refund in years (due to student loan debt).  Everything worked out so perfectly!  Faith people.  Faith.

Alright, that's it for this long a** blog.

P.s.  I have decided I will be doing this blog a little bit more consistently.  Every Monday to be exact!  I still have to think of a tag line for social media (meaningful Monday maybe?? eh!)

But anywho, stay tuned for next weeks installment!  And as always, feedback is GREATLY appreciated.

Peace in the middle east!

Saturday, October 11, 2014

Do you ever feel STUCK??/ roommates!

Sometimes I feel like I just don't know what exactly to do when I wake up in the morning and there is nothing SPECIFICALLY for me to do.  How do we decided what are the next steps we should take in our lives?  Is this it?  is this all?  My life has become waaaay to methodical ever since I quit that other job I had.  The job gave me specific tasks on specific days... now that I have so much more free time, EYE have to be the one to decided what I will do, when I will do it and how.  It's stressful and overwhelming, so I usually don't do much at all... but sit and contemplate doing things.  How do I get out of this vicious and ferocious cycle of being....STUCK? It's like I have writers block on my life!  Something needs to change.  I hate when things are the same for too long, it gets very boring.
  So what is my next big change?  Maybe I need another job, a more fulfilling one, maybe an internship??  I was also planning on moving in with my bff Ashleigh.  Maybe that could be a change I need.  Living alone...I  think of all the friends I've known - Celine Dion.  Haha! No but seriously (I love Celine Dion, she's awesome), living alone is tough sometimes.  Of course it may seem glamorous and all, and somewhat of an accomplishment, but do you really wanna be alone ALL the time with just you and your cat??  (even though I love my beautiful cat, she's awesome too)

I don't have nearly as many guests over here as you would think, more often than not, it's just me up in here.  And don't get me wrong, I love my alone time,  but I also like being around SOME living creatures SOMETIMES.  It's like the SHU on Orange is the new black.  They cut you off from everyone all day for such a long time that you go insane.  Maybe I'm insane.  Eh, oh well.  Hopefully by the end of this month, something in my life will change, so that I can sprawl out of my web of despair.

Speaking of roommates though, I know NYC is the city of roommates, and there is one situation that I am very strongly against when it comes to this.  Living with your significant other (unless you are married) is the WORST thing you can ever do!  I know that it is a perfect way to save on rent (since you 2 can obviously share even the smallest studio and split the rent right down the middle), which is why most people end up falling into the trap...but no!  Never do this under these circumstances.  Speaking from experience (on multiple/ terrible occasions), living with someone brings out every single aspect of their life.  Brings it right on up to the surface!  There is no hiding who you are when you live so closely with someone.  You are bound to see something you do not like.  When you get into arguments...where is there for you to go?  Nowhere!  When you come to the messy, bitter end, and you have to divide all of your things, there is ALWAYS drama about who gets what.  I have had many things taken from me and never replaced or compensated.  You have no place to recharge your battery!  Often if you feel as if it's not working out relationship-wise, you will end up staying together just because of the place you have, which is NEVER good.  All in all, worst possible thing to do ever.  Living with a friend is the easier route.  Sure they will get on your damn nerves sometimes, but atleast you won't have to sleep in the same bed! And parting ways will be MUCH easier if it ever comes to that.  Roommates are a very touchy subject.  The line between love and hate of them is very thin.  I've had great roommates (Milly!) and I've had many terrible roommates (you know who you are dammit!).  The bottom line is, you have to live with these people.  IN your search for cheap accommodations, keep in mind that you get what you pay for.  Moving in with someone who already has an apartment, they may have a ton of stupid rules and regulations that you may not be able to get jiggy with.  My best piece of advice is total and extreme communication.  No passive aggression does not count!  DIRECT communication is really the only way that works.  People don't know things unless you tell them.  For the really crazy people that you deal with, you may have to come with some prepared evidence, which will ultimately make and fool see the light.

If you need to know how to deal with any roommate situations, please feel free to email me!  I will give you the best advice that I possibly can.  Other than that, I hope everyone is comfortable in the place where you live...It's really the only thing that matters at the end of the day (because at the end of the day, we gotta sleep!)

Peace out yall!


I think this is pretty funny!

Saturday, September 27, 2014

                                                                    Rated XXX

Hello everyone, it's you favorite blogger Bretony!  Today I will be talking about the oversexualization of pretty much every freakin thing in the world today!

Where to begin, where to begin.... I think I will begin with maybe the Nikki Minaj Anaconda video
First off I wanna say that I did actually kinda like it...only because I also like porn, and that's what that basically was, soft porn.  I'm with it!  THEN, there was the Jlo video which I saw shortly after entitled (rather appropriately) "Booty".  I guess Jlo just said, let's cut out all the middle man innuendos and euphemisms and just call it what it is! I appreciate that as well.

In addition to the videos, the songs, all that jazz, the outfits that people wear nowadays also leave little to nothing to the imagination.  The dress Rihanna wore to some awards show this year...the sheer one where you literally saw everything...I mean yea, that's cool and all, but when my friend last week told me about to new Rihanna nudes that were going around the internet, I was like ehh.  I looked at them anyway eventually just to see. Nothing special at all! Definitely nothing that I hadn't seen before from her.  What else could she possibly do now to get my attention? Pretty much nothing.  Even Beyonce' (don't kill me stans, I know how yall get, which reminds me I have to make a blog about THAT too)...All of Beyonce's recent songs and allll of her outfits at concerts are so scantily clad nowadays.  Sometimes I just want a taste ya know?

Why does everyone always want to give it all away ALL the time?  Can something be left to the imagination?  Like, something?  Going back to an old 2pac song, I hate sound sleazy but tease me, I don't want it if it's that easy!

And I really don't.  Well, I mean, sometimes I do.  But honestly bro, not all the time.

In saying all of this, I as a woman in today's society feel like I am slowly and surely blending into the blandness as a flower on the wall of life. I guess in a weird way it must be fun to be oversexed and have everyone lust over you in every regard.  I have never been that kinda girl to be as such, but I did have a dream recently where I wore this super slutty type dress number to an award thingy...and I gotta admit, I was feeling pretty good when I woke up.  Maybe there is a sort of confidence factor that it gives you? I remember back in the day when it was risque' to show your belly button, and controversial videos were saved for BET afterdark and not primetime.

All in all, idk.  I really don't know.  I'm a little bit conflicted on this subject, but I'm interested to see what everyone thinks about the Triple Xing of America.  Comment below!

And that's the bit of truth for today!

Friday, September 19, 2014

Movin' on up

Soooo, I get a LOT of inquiries about my super sudden (and very cheap) move to NYC a few years ago.  I am known for my thrifty ways, so I realize moving to NYC on MY budget must be quite surprising to some.  But me being the nice person I am, I have decided to share with you all a step by step guide on exactly how to move to NYC from whatever lame/boring city you currently live in, and revamp your life like you never have before!  Yes,  if I can do it, everyone truly can :)

Step 1: NETWORK!

So you wanna move to NYC huh? Great! Now, who the hell do you know in NYC? Seriously tho, do you know anyone who currently lives there? How well do you know them? Are they family? Everybody knows SOMEbody who lives there.  But if you don't, there's a nice little thing called social networking that you can definitely utilize to your advantage to make new friends in NEW places.  Get to know someone who lives there, but don't just say "Hey what's up" one day, and then the next, "Can I come live with you??" Let it build! Get to know them, their situation, let them know your plans eventually, and THEN ask about coming to stay for a while. Or sometimes they can let you know about rooms available since they do actually live there.  Basically, make GOOD friends with someone living in NYC!

Step 2: Buy a one way plane ticket.

That's right, once you get the confirmation that you can come and stay, buy the plane ticket asap.  Give yourself a little time (maybe a month away), so you can tie up all your lose ends wherever you live, but BUY the ticket so you will definitely not back out.  A one way shouldn't be that expensive, and especially not if it's in advance, so just do it and don't think about it.  Pack only the necessities, you will get new and better stuff once you get to NYC. You don't really need a ton of money if you're going to be staying with someone, so just bring money for food and a metro card (which is $112 damn dollars for a monthly! grrrr). That is pretty much all you will need. Oh! And download the NYC subway map on your phone or ipod.  Study it! Get yourself in a NYC state of mind, and prepare to WORK as SOON as you get out there.

Step 3: Get to NYC and explore

Once you get to NYC, you will be feeling a lot of emotions.  If this is your first time in NYC, you will be feeling more emotions than usual! Have your friend or family member (whoever you know) show you around the city for the first few days, or even first 2 weeks.  Learn the city.  Learn where the dollar pizza spot is on 6th ave and 8th st.  It is your friend while you will be grinding!  Don't go to any ritzy or fancy places just yet.  If you want to have fun, (and you're pretty) there are plenty of nightlife places to go for free, so NEVERRRR pay to go out while you're in your grinding period.

Step 4: GRIND!

Give yourself, and the person you are staying with a firm date on which you will be out of their hair.  For me, it was 3 months.  I'd say anything over 6 months is a fckn freeloader...and you should be ashamed! Anywho, during your grind period, you must find a job, or at least some sort of hustle.  Also, network more and more with the new people you meet.  Find out about rooms to rent, or cheap apartments.  Ask around about the good and bad parts of the city to live in.  It's best to live by a train to easily access everything.  Resist the urge to splurge! Unless you find a sugar daddy, then by all means!  But remember, you are a New New Yorker, and people know you are naive, so be careful of scams, and you should be ok.

Step 5: Flourish or GO HOME!

Last step, move out of your freeloading situation into a space of your own that you are paying rent for.  Hopefully you will have some money saved up at the end of your established deadline.  If you find yourself not finding a job, not networking, not doing much of anything but being blinded by the lights and jaded by the fast pace, I suggest you get back on line and buy a ticket right on back home! NYC isn't really for everyone.  It's a nice place to visit if you want!  But if you do not have the spirit inside you to make it in this city, then you should really just stay home!

Step 6: Get a NY state ID and welcome home!

If you've made it past all of these steps, congrats! The first thing I did was get my state ID so I can stop being considered a tourist! It felt good! You will love it, and you will meet so many interesting new people.  It's like no other place on earth (not like I've been every where else on earth, but you know, just a guess!).

**Side note, you should probably also evaluate why you want to live in this city in the first place.  I have always loved NYC for some reason.  Ever since I was a little girl I always imagined myself here.  I guess for me, it's the fact that there are so many different people places and things all crammed into one city.  It is perfect for my short attention span.  Also, this is truly a place where you can be yourself and truly feel comfortable.

And if you DO move here, be sure to check back with my blog or with me, to find out all the cool places and things I like to do while living here!

Send me your tips and feedback! Also, let me know if you're moving! (and no you can't stay with me, find another friend -____-)

These are some picture from my very first time I ever visited NYC. Exactly 1 year later, I was living here! Pow!

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Soooooo, I found an old blog of mine (that I had forgotten about), and I realized I use to take a picture of myself everyday in the hallway of my old apartment building (the lighting was amazing though!)  This was a couple of years ago, but gosh it's fun to see my old styles and how they were always different!  Man, I really can't make up my mind about anything huh?

Enjoy young B!

Free 99

Hello everyone, it's me Bretony!

Welcome back to my blog, I'm very appreciative for everyone who reads, watches, listens, everything! (Even if there is only one person reading, I'm glad I could reach just one poor unfortunate soul)

Anywho!  As most of you know, yes I quit my main job a while ago.  I haven't even really had enough free time off to realize it yet though!  the only thing that is absolutely true is that I definitely have way less money.  Now, not that I was like Warren Buffet or anything, but I could afford to take myself out to eat every once in a dang on while!  These days, I can't really do that anymore.  I learned a long time ago to try and never utter the words "I'm broke" because that's basically like speaking it into fruition....but gosh dangit I've been scrapping the bottom of the barrel recently!  When you don't have a consistant source of substantial income anymore, you find yourself in certain situations just so that you can maintain life as you know it.  I sometimes now go on random "dates" with people who I know will pay for everything.  I use Uber alot (the black car service).  If you keep referring people, they will keep giving you free rides!  It's really an amazing app, and I haven't paid for one cab ride since (p.s. if you don't have Uber DOWNLOAD IT NOW! and make SURE you use my code! bretonym )

But yea seriously download Uber so I can keep getting free rides.

I've also started renting out my living room space on airbnb.  It's really awesome as well.  Even if people cancel I still get half of the money which is super awesome.  I've done some calculations, and if I were to rent out the space everyday of the month, rent for me would be free!  However, I like to be alone sometimes, so I'd rather be in here singing to the top of my lungs and having conversations with my cat than being judged by some Euro boy. 

All in all, life with lesser money isn't so bad.  The way this city is set up, you practically CAN live for free!  Which is one of my many new goals: to live a completly sponsored life.  I want to live for free, eat for free, drink for free, travel for free... why the heck not??  I know there is a silly quote that people like to say, there is no such thing as a free lunch....well guess what, BILL ME LATER!  I think it can totally be done.  I know people who get free stuff just based off of being a popular instagrammer or youtuber.  My friend Ashleigh the flight attendant gets to travel anywhere for FREE.  Working in a restaurant sometimes I get food for FREE (never as much as I want though, blah)

Money is so stupid.  It makes people act different, think different, feel different, steal, KILL.  It's just nuts, and if I had it my way, money would never pass through my hands in any form.  But alas, that is the world we live in.  But you can't blame a gal for trying!

That's all my truth for today, and if you don't know, you better ask somebody!

p.s. I've started working on a new documentary about the crazy a** rent prices in Nyc and what, if anything, could be done about lowering them so that everyone in the city can have a fair chance at affordable housing.  So if you have any input of would like to help, email me!

p.p.s. sign up for Uber dammit! promo code: bretonym


Monday, September 08, 2014

Thursday, August 28, 2014


Hello everyone, and welcome back to the wonderful world of my mind!  My crazy, cluttered, intensely fluid, genius gemini mind.  That's right everyone, this blog is going to be about my insanity.  I am a woman of many passions.  Many, many passions.  Some may even say too many passions?  Probably so! But I've always just attributed it to the fact that I like to do whatever it is that I like to do...what makes me happy!  Then when I started to hear people tell me more about myself through my supposed astrological sign of Gemini, more things started to come together:  I'm a genius, I'm super creative, and my mind is consistently going going going.  More recently however, during one of my daily browses on WebMD (just to make sure I don't have any new diseases), I realized that I may have a disease!

Do I have adult ADHD??

After looking up the symptoms and comparing them to my every day life, I actually really may have this!  Let me walk you through one of my days off last week:

I woke up pretty early, checked some emails, watched some Netflix. Then I had a sudden urge to play my piano.  I practiced for a bit, maybe an hour.  I would start to play a song, but never finish.  I did that for about 5 songs.  Then I had a sudden urge to switch to the bass guitar, so I did that.  Then I thought to myself, I probably should play my electric guitar now so it won't feel left out.  Then, I tried to record a song on my recorder...with all 3 instruments.  I did that in about 5 different way, but didn't finish any of the songs I began.  THEN, I decided it would probably be better if I tried to write some lyrics to a song first.  I wrote about 3 words in one notebook, and decided I'd just do a cover of something, so I looked up lyrics on youtube.  I stumbled upon a cover of gangnam style (which is in Korean).  The cover sounded so good that it made me look up a lesson on Korean. Began to learn a little Korean via some Kpop videos, then decided I needed to make a dance video.  I made 3 separate dance videos (twerk videos actually), and then I realized that the whole day was gone and I hadn't finished one thing! I just kept bouncing around from one thing to another!  This is how my mind works all the time people.  It's very exhausting.  I get super overwhelmed with all of the new things I wanna do and constantly learn.  How do I turn this mind off for like 5 minutes?  How do I concentrate on just one thing at a time?  Do I need pills?  Therapy?  Meditation??  The tangents that my mind takes are insane.  I have sometimes told people that I'm always simultaneously thinking about roughly 7 separate things.  Sometimes they test me and ask me to name them.  Then I name them all! Not sure how I do this really, but it's real!  I also make a bunch of lists all the time.  Lists lists lists. Lists about everything: to do lists, grocery lists, lists of things I like, lists of places.  LISTS!  I have like 6 different blogs (I'm already itching to make another one), 4 different youtube channels, endless notebooks in my apartment, 3 of which I carry around at all times.

Maybe all of this is why I can't advance any further.  No focus or direction.  I know my brain has so much power just waiting to be unleashed upon the world.  I just need to wrangle it all in somehow and tame this beast!

Any suggestions anyone?

Sunday, August 17, 2014

After work crowd

Hello all! It's me Bretony.  (The past few years, when introducing myself, I notice that I shortened my name to just "Bre", mainly for the fact that in loud situations I'd rather people only say part of my name than get the entire thing wrong.  But I need to start saying the whole thing again name is awesome!)

It's been about 2 weeks since I quit my main job for the hotel I was working/ slaving at for 2 long years! You know overall, when I told them I wanted to leave because of the many injustices happening (that I itemized in my exit speech in clear bullet points), their whole attitude towards it was so darn apathetic!  Like....y'all aren't even gonna fight to keep me?? They didn't even wanna know why I wanted to leave!  I had to ask if they wanted to know, tisk tisk tisk.  They even took me off of the schedule a week earlier than I said I was going to leave!  Considering all of that blatant disrespect of me as an employee there, I knew I made the right decision to leave.  I did love most of my coworkers however, which was sad to leave them all. Fortunately tomorrow is the annual summer staff party, which I will be crashing like a computer that just downloaded a jankey version of adobe suite.

Conveniently, one week after I quit, my sister asked if I wanted to come out to Detroit for her birthday party, her treat! Heck yea I did! Trip #5 this year!  Detroit was very nostalgic.  I rarely ever visit, and when I do, I'm only around for a few days.  It's always very weird to see all the people who actually still live there.  Other than that, for my sister's birthday, it was the first time that me and my younger sister's all hung out together in our adulthood.  It was pretty fun!  I've realized that when we all go out together, we are a pretty unstoppable force.  We shoulda started a dang singing group or something... what the heck is wrong with us!?  Anywho, the last day I was there, a HUGEEE flood went down.  My sister's block had like waist deep water on the street level, and her car was underwater! I was almost trapped in Detroit for a few more days, but I decided to leave my luggage there (since I couldn't get to it anyway) and row on over to the unaffected airport.

Back in NYC, I've been working at my secondary job with a few days off in between to clean my house and get things in order.  I also have to become one with my newfound free time so that I can learn to monetize my bohemian artsy wayward life! It will be hard, because I really don't care all that much about money as long as I have a nice place to live, and food everyday.  Everything else comes!  I will show you all the way don't worry.  Gotta finish reading that darn thick Oprah many pages.

anywho!  Peace out yall!  Please keep commenting through the difficulties, I need to know these are being read!

Friday, August 08, 2014


So I was reading an article online about some youtube music policies:

 and it got me mad!

WTF happened to you youtube??? As each day passes when I don't put out another video online, I contemplate why, and now I finally know.  I fckn HATE youtube now!  Youtube use to be something completely different than what it is today.  COMPLETELY. And it makes me so freakin annoyed that I have to jump through hoops nowadays just to put something out!  The main thing that is very annoying to me (and also very tedious to get around when creating videos) is the "copyright infringement BULL crap"  that they get so bent out of shape over.  I feel like I may have possibly been one of the first people on youtube (first 500 definitely),  and uploading things back then was such a breeze.  A walk in the park compared to all the technicalities now.  Whenever I felt inspired or moved to do a dance or sing a song, or have intro music, outro music, I just freakin did it! I began my channel as an outlet to incorporate the music that I love with the entertainment that I love.  It was always a dream of mine to have a show on MTV for that simple fact.

I'm not sure how recently youtube has decided to change the rules so drastically and strictly, but now I can't even use a little PIECE of anybody's music without having to fight for it to stay online.  I posted a small 1 minute video using Beyonce's song "Flawless" for less than 60 seconds as an intro to the speaking part of the video... copyright infringement flags all up and through!   Everybody freakin knows that it's Beyonce's song, nobody is trying to use it in an unlawful manner, I'm not even making any money off of it.  I just wanted to make a short music video! What is so wrongggg about that?  These corporations in the music industry are getting more and more greedy every day, and the individual artists aren't even seeing half of this so called "money" that is being made.  It just really frustrates me.

Don't get me wrong, I love independent artists as well.  I have many friends who make music, and I like to incorporate as much of their music as I can.  I also like to help give them as much exposure as I can, but I ALSO like songs I hear on the radio sometimes.  Is it a crime?  What is the point of even having the music to listen to if we can't use it in the videos we make?  Everything in the world gets more and more complicated by the minute.  I miss all of the simpler times of the world.  Perhaps the grandparents of the world miss all of the simpler times that were before us.  Perhaps.

All I know is, I want and need to be able to use music in the things that I create.  I don't care if I don't make a dime, I just want an outlet for my visions.  Blah.  Now I just don't know what to do anymore.

I need some advice everyone.

p.s.  I was also recently told that even the comments on this blog have been hard to post due to all of the complicated changes that have been made (about google merging with every waking aspect of the internet and making you log in through that or facebook to do ANYTHING online).  But if you are able, please do comment! I read every single thing....

or just email me at

p.p.s   I quit my main job last week!  I now to more freedom to create the empire that will be supporting me for the rest of my life... hopefully.  I am also in Detroit my home town for my sister's birthday.  Very nostalgic!  ALSO! check out my new found venture... photography!  Yes, I know I'm very random as a person.

p.p.p.s  One of my friends were asking about me at my old job, and a co-worker of mine (not sure which one) told my friend "Ohhhh, Bretony, that weird girl"

I'm not weird dangit! Well, maybe, but weird is cool eff you!

Friday, July 25, 2014

Friendship is just another word for foreplay

So I've recently stumbled upon the show "The L Word" (which has so much sex in it by the sheesh, is that all they do??), and (SPOILER ALERT) besides the fact that by the end of season 2, they kill off my favorite character -___-.... it's a pretty good show!  As most of you know, I'm a total sucker for quotes, and in one episode Alice said something that really made me think:

"Friendship is just another word for foreplay"

And if you think about it, it really freakin is!

So on the show, Alice does this thing called "The Chart" in which she connects all the people in her friend group who have slept with each other and how everyone is connected.  It turns into like this mass web of everyone being connected to everyone.  It got me to thinking, in the lesbian community, what is the difference between them being friends and f*** buddies?  Like, what about a person stops you from pursuing a sexual encounter if you are attracted to their personality and looks?  The answer is nothing!  Being someones friend of the gender you are attracted to is nothing but a mere game of timing and preparedness.  If you are both available at the time, what is to stop you both from hooking up?  I know there is that whole ordeal about not crossing the line of friendship, and some often never do... but I'll tell you one thing, the idea has crossed your mind, no?

Now everyone, I know there are exceptions to this rule, as there are every rule.  I also know that in some cases, there is a such thing as a platonic relationship.  BUT, what I WILL say is that if you've made a friend with someone of the opposite sex (or same sex if you are attracted to them) anytime after your post pubescent hormones started kicking in, either you or the other person has wanted to bang.

And yes I read that statement over about 10 times to make sure it is what I wanted to say (all the verbiage gets confusing!)

Think about it yall, you know I'm right! If you don't think so, please let me know via comment!


P.s. I will try to put out videos weekly, even if they kinda sorta suck, which I hope they won't.  I was reading some old messages from the youtube channel last night, and people use to send me a lot of supportive emails about how they loved what I did!  I gotta put more stuff out there even if it means it will suck for the first few videos.  But bare with me pleaseeeee. Holla!